The double standard!


When was the last time you watched a football game of your favorite football club? When was the last time you watched in a pub or in public? Whether it was long time back or last night, there is always a character in public midst all the viewers who condemns the clubs and so called “corporate control”. That person could be anybody but I can surely say with personal experience that I have seen at least one of these people who make these comments. In these moments I have wished to punch the person in the face and I might go out and say, you would want it too!

But if that somebody is someone you know then you can also agree with me that, the same person will watch a country versus country fixture with no comments at all. The problem is not that the person disturbs your interests with his comments whereas he enjoys the game when it is in his or her terms. But the problem is that person is a big hypocrite!

Let me make it clear to you, a country is a franchise itself. Whether you believe it or not, when there is a fixture between countries the audience is divided into camps without a question. Even if it is a country that you do not belong to, you make up your mind to support it. It is a double standard on the part of the hypocrite. He or she claims the corporate maniacs are dividing us while we watch professional football and profit whereas he or she enjoys a Word Cup match.

The hypocrisy does not end there my friends. Hypocrite like those may claim that the money pumped into professional sports, the advertisements and the money making scandals are the tools which make us corporate puppets (which is true by the way). But isn't that the same with a country versus country games? Isn't it the same players most of the time? They may say that it is a country’s pride and reputation at stake in such a game but how so? Isn't it one way for the government to ensure people are entertained so that they do not question the government? If we try and tackle them while we watch a game, they make a big scene and disturb the viewers watching the game. That is another moment when we would want to punch them in the face.

The policy of every government, religion, idea, corporation and pretty much everything is to divide the masses and conquer. The British conquered India using same methods and today too we are all conquered by the same principle. When we see every religion out there, the idea dictates to unite for common good and god. “Our god is true and we are united as humans.” The double standard there is that the god is said to be true which divides humans itself because of the multiple numbers of religions out there and follows with a contradictory statement of uniting people together. Hypocrisy at its best and there is little difference between these hypocrites and the ones who disturb our game.

What I am trying to say here is not to damn religion, countries or corporations. The message that I am relaying here is; DO NOT FALL FOR HYPOCRITES. Enjoy what you love and if some hypocrite tries to get in your way of having fun, beat them with their own logic (not while you watch the game though).


Things to Remember



What do you cherish the most? Your cell phone or the photos in that phone? Your money or the amount of hours that you put into earning that money? Your hotel room or the memories of the time spent with the loved one in the hotel room? These questions seem so clear to be one sided but in today’s modern world they are the most difficult to be answered.

At a glance it may seem that it is very easy to make these choices but in everyday life it becomes difficult to figure out what is important. The thought of success has muddled the definition of true happiness. Are we really happy when we get a buttload of cash or are we happy when we spend that money spending time with our friends? The answer would be easy; the latter. But let us ask ourselves, do we really do this? DO we really go for friends when we are tempted by money? Do we sit by our parents just because we wanted to and miss a day at work? The answer maybe a harsh “No”.

It is good that we should be careful with money and success. It will define our lives but if that is the only purpose of life then it is not worth living. Friends and family count more than what we have in our pockets because they are priceless. This has been told again and again but let me give you a solid example. Let me give you an example from a recent event from my life. We were three friends and together we had only about 200 rupees. In those two hundred rupees we ate two full meals each in the lunch hour, played some cards, watched some movies and at the end of the day we were laughing our hearts out from all the jokes that we told each other.

The economy right now suggests that at 200 rupees decent fun is not possible. If we see the trend among the youth then that supports the argument. Even a movie costs 300 rupees at least. A cup of decent coffee is Rs.90. I should know this because my Facebook wall is filled with my juniors, seniors and peers spending that much money on their day-out fiestas. But how did I manage to have fun in a low budget? The answer is simple. It was because of the company of my friends.

This is the thing to remember, never worry about money when the thing that matters is companionship when you are with your genuine friends. I should know this because I have friends and they last for life.



Loose Motions!


There are moments in life when you live in your bedroom and there are moments in life when you live in your bathroom. Bathroom moments are very special because of our encore singing and dance performance. Sometimes there are unexpected appearances by parents because we forget to lock the door. But most of the time we are alone and in these alone moments there is one moment I am likely to remember; those moments when I have loose motions.

Not those loose motions that come from my behind but the loose motions from my mind. Yes, when I sit in that toilet pane I tend to think so much. Those precious moments of solitude are so much fun. I find nothing but good ideas when I am there. Yes that is my sanctum and that is my nirvana. There are lots of people out there who agree with me too and that makes me even happy.

Sometimes I felt like a weirdo because I do this. This was until I talked to my friends about their safe places. It was surprising that most of them said that it was their bathroom. WOW! Can you believe that? A bathroom of all places! Yes, my friends made me feel good about it. Talking to them made me realize I am special like everyone else in my own way. Talking to my friends made me realize that talking about anything makes you feel better.

That is the power of friends I guess and frankly they have more loose motions of their minds than me. They are deep thinkers and wanderers of the mind realm. They ask questions and give answers to so many of the complex philosophical questions that even I am petrified to ask. I bet some of their skills rubbed off on me and I have become like them.

Friends have a special way with us and that makes them special. They have their antiques and their shortcomings but that becomes their specialty. They think, act and inspire me to and vice-versa. We have a saying among us, “One for all, and all for one!”

But that being said, we are all special in our own way!

Sleeplessness


I have not got enough sleep in me. The past nights have been more of ponder over the possibilities of life than blissful sleep. My brain activity becomes higher as I sit there doing nothing staring the ceiling. It is apropo that the thinking capacity of my brain amplifies at night. At night there is no one to bother me while I am trying to sleep; except for my own consciousness.

It hurts when I have to wake up thinking all of those things when I am supposed to sleep. I wish that my thinking capacity were the same when I was studying. It would increase my efficiency while I study but that does not happen. Maybe that is because there are people around at daytime who disturb me while I study. That could be one of the reasons why great minds of the worlds used to work in seclusion.

But I always wonder if I do seclude myself from others and focus only at the task at hand then wouldn't it make me an antisocial being. Humans are humans because we can multitask and think. But what if thinking overpowered multitasking and we were just thinking beings who think and do only the task at hand? Is that the same world where only great minds exist? Or is it just a world where we are all vampires who live in the night?

All of these questions would be asked and answered as I lay in my bed alone at night. I will wonder again and again with the same question, “Will I ever find the college I am looking for?”  Yes, for the past weeks this has been the highlight of my life; College education and an aspiration to be one of the greats. It is harder to forget when my peers are already enrolled in colleges and I am still unsure about my future. 

I wonder even more if one of the greats such as Einstein, or Tesla or even Howard Hughes ever had such an impasse in life. There seems to be a jinx in my plans because all that I try to accomplish or plan does not execute or deliver. There were such plans that had odds of not failing and yet they did. This has brought me into deep thinking and sleeplessness. Why is it that my plans for future and present never work out?

Maybe this will be the question of the night tonight!

Dreams


Think about that Porsche that you wanted. Or was it a BMW? Doesn't matter, what matters is that you wanted something. You had a dream and that proves that you have a drive. Well that wish for something or that dream is a proof of who you are. It describes who you are. Your dreams reflect your personality and who you aspire yourself to be.

But what if somebody had no dreams or didn't know what he or she wanted to be? Would he or she reflect nothing? Would he or she still be a part of society? Would he or she ever figure his or her dreams out? Well, these questions make me ponder every night and make me feel more and more suffocated. See, I had it all sorted out but nothing went according to plan and I became an aimless man; A dreamless subject of the ever ambitious society.

See, in my society the person have small dreams of having a big house, cars, and a beautiful wife and means to serve their ends. But that is not my dream. Even if that dream seems shallow to many people from my society they accept it widely. If someone fails to acknowledge this dream then he or she is not fit and is damned in society. In honesty this damnation feels lighter than having to succumb to their dream.

It seems that I don’t have a dream or an aim right now. I need to figure it out and there are lots of people in the world who feel the same. Even without a dream I am choosy of what I do and that is fine. I have time to figure out what I want to do best .That may take my whole lifetime but it would be worth it. I am searching right now and I am young but there are so many people out there who have succumbed to society and have given up their search of their personal dreams. I feel sorry for them.

Yes, material wealth maybe a dream of someone and I respect their dreams but if they want me to chase the same, I have a problem. Here is where I have reached an impasse. I have not yet found what I wish to do. I do not succumb to society then what do I do? My conscience says time will tell me the answer but I do know this about time.

Time and Tide waits for none!

Bullies


Remember that scene from that movie FORREST GUMP. Forrest Gump played by Tom Hanks is chased by bullies while he runs and breaks the shackles from his legs. He is a physically challenged individual in the movie. Needless to say there is a heroine in the background saying “Run Forrest! Run!” which in turn became the iconic phrase from the movie. If you haven’t watched it, I think you got the gist. A boy discovers his true self when the bullies intimidate him.

So, here is the fact about bullies. They are of two types. Ones those are good for us and ones that are bad. Now the thing is people tend to think bullies come in their stereotypes, big and mean. But here is the thing. The ones that come in these stereotypical images are good for us. Weird fact right? How can a bully be good for me? Well, that is hard to say because if we take the physical intimidation and injuries from wedgies then it’s not good. But let’s look at the motivational factor. There are many people have succeeded from trying to upstage bullies. For example Napoleon Bonaparte who wanted to upstage his bullies who bullied him about his height and succeeded.

But, what about the second kind of bullies? Who are they? Well, look no further it’s you. Technically you because it’s your consciousness putting you down. See, the lesson from that Tom Hanks movie scene is breaking your shackles from your mind that you have made yourself. Beat the bully inside you.

Well, it’s hard. That is why the scene is iconic and that is why we don’t see such scenes in our daily lives. You, me and everyone has a hard time beating this bully. This bully knows everything about us and beats us down with self doubt which is hard for the other kind. The large amount of courage needed to face this bully is the thing that separates us from failure and success and I have seen this as a proof in my own life. The amount of courage required for me to do singing was pretty hard. I had to fight myself and put the bully down. Even though I wasn’t good at it, I did it and it was liberating.

So, the point is if you want to succeed then defeat the bullies. Around you or inside you, beat them!


Family


It started from childhood and it has reached it’s climax when I am in my last years of teenage. I was always told I was a bright kid by my parents and I proved them right. The academic achievements of my childhood and later teen years profoundly inspired my parents to dream about immense success of their child. This led to me damning my society for its decadence. Not the whole world but the society of my home country which I reside.

My country has a long tradition of joint family. Even my family used to be a joint family until my father decided come to the capital for better future of his kids. Yes, My future.  But little did I know that this move would put me in a debt forever and I would be bound by social morals to uphold that debt. The idea of joint family means that you are dependent on others in many issues. But what happened was that the family of mine turned into a nuclear family  without a transition which has created problems for me. Problems like making my own choices like my friends in the west.

For instance in the western world the child is to be his own man or her own woman after the age of 18 because they are nuclear families and they take care of themselves. But in a joint family we never separate and we are bound to stick together and continue together. The abrupt transition from the joint family and nuclear family has caused problems. The parents are with a nuclear family structure and values but the mindset still represents Joint family. Thus, they wish to expect all the benefits parents receive in a joint family while the family is still nuclear.

On the other hand, children as they compare themselves to be independent (and are taught be so by their parents) see no obligation to others and they wish to follow what the western world does. This has created a problem for society. That is the exact situation of many of the youths in my country and me. The politicians and social analysts call it a generation gap but I call it unnatural social structure establishment.

See, our society  adapted to the social structure of a joint family but the lack of knowledge and social understanding and the outburst of the nuclear family structure created an imbalance in the society. There was no transition which caused social dilemmas and brain drain. Yes brain drain. The major reason youth from my country go to countries like USA, Australia or UK is to escape and in their own words be free to make their own decisions. This luxury is not available here because of the interference of parents or the overwhelming involvement of parents in the personal lives of their kids.

The lack of social revolution and social understanding has been root for the evils that exists in my country. Better we understand that about our society, better we learn to live harmoniously.